Saturday, October 30, 2010

Queer Theology

queer church - a dialogue
by Miak Siew on Saturday, October 30, 2010 at 11:17am
Rev Yap posted his thoughts titled "The Nature and Purpose of FCC" a couple of days ago, and coincidentally i had my queer theology paper returned, and i could not help but reply to Rev Yap with my own thoughts on the the role of FCC. i am posting our email exchange here as an invitation to further dialogue, and the adventure of the unfolding of God's invitation to do a new thing.


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The Nature and Purpose of FCC

We have been considering the role of Free Community Church in the Christian community here in Singapore. LGBT is at the beginning interested to relate Christianity to sexuality leading to the acceptance of homosexuality as a gift from the loving God the Creator of all that exists including all sentient beings irrespective of race and religion. Our Creator is continuously engaged in the evolutionary process of human beings living in co-operation with one another and in harmony with nature to bring about shalom. Religion has to be involved in this transformation process not only in sexuality and human development but also in ecology and mutual existence on planetary earth.

FCC began at the stage when LGBT were secure enough to come together to form SAFEHAVEN as a support group with common concerns and shared leadership. When the larger community outside seem to move in the direction of acceptance of LGBT essentially more for political and economic reasons, the issue of homosexuality surfaced both within faith communities and secular society. SAFEHAVEN was able to mobilize courageous people and evolve to form the Free Community Church.

What is the nature of FCC? Because LGBT was excluded from the majority in society we paraded the principle of inclusion. We proclaim that FCC is the only inclusive church. Our distinctiveness is that we are the only Church that does not exclude and truly welcomes LGBT. Those who come do not feel that they are discriminated upon and excluded. We continue to enable in the interpretation of the BIblical texts to relate faith with sexuality and assert that homosexuality is not a sin. The degree of acceptance even within FCC is correlated with the change of one's theological understanding of the sacred text on the issue of one's sexual orientation. The theological baggage that we carry may even force us to internalize homophobia. But we are gaining ground to move out of regarding homosexuality as a sin or even fallen nature to the stage where we accept that our sexual orientation is a given and a gift from our loving Creator.

When FCC declares that we are an inclusive community it does that mean that mean we are completely free and we include every body and every view including those which differ from one another. We merely tolerate the differences. We isolate ourselves from other people and other perspectives. Inclusivity without interactions and openness to change is intolerable. Inclusivity in itself is heretical. It is not the move to uniformity and the forming of one common view for all. It is the sharing of our views always tentative and seeking common approach to address the problems that we face in our personal lives and in community life. We are on the journey of evolving like all things around us.

Our religious faith must relate to our common life and address all issues and not only on sexual orientation. The changes in our theology must move beyond sexuality but to all of life.

Yes, there is an emerging problem that FCC will deal exclusively with homosexuality issues. The churches outside will continue to be concerned with heterosexual issues with the LGBT members clossetted within. We will continue to live apart from one another.

The authentic Christian Church is be inclusive with regard to gays and straights, male and female & in-between, rich and poor. The change and re-construction of theology must take place to relate to evolve and grow such a community. There are people, gay and straight, who are expecting and waiting for a different theology that permeates all churches including FCC today. As long as we reflect the prevailing theology, whether liberal or conservative, that governs the life our our Christian churches today we will continue to exist where we are, separate and unequal. The reconciling church is an example with a majority of straights but decided to be gay affirming. The kind of theology that they have evolved which leads them to accept LGBT must influence them to relate in a new way to all other areas of life. They too need to transform their theological understanding of what God expects from their commitment to the life and mission of the church in the prevailing pluralistic paradigm. The same can be said of the purpose of the existence of FCC. Let us engage and learn from one another to equip ourselves for such a time like this.

Rev Dr Yap Kim Hao

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Thank you, Rev Yap, for reiterating what i think is the call of FCC.

i believe that FCC is called to be a queer church, not just an LGBT church. Oddly, but not surprising to me, Rev Yap's email came just a few hours after i had my paper on queer theology returned to me. i'm halfway through the penultimate semester here in PSR, and i am constantly thinking how i can apply what i learned, and what it is we are called to be as a community.

Queer theology differs from LGBT theology, as "queer" isn't another identity alongside lesbian and gay, or a shorthand for LGBT, but rather "a radical destabilizing of identities and resistance to the naturalizing of any identity." In other words, "queer" is the refusal to be boxed in, or categorized, or labelled. Queer theology (and queer theory) exposes the artificiality and constructed nature of gender and sexuality and challenges the binary categories that are normally taken for granted as natural and self-evident. It is unrelenting, obstinate in its deconstruction of all binary divides - This is the gift and insight queer theory offers to theology - in exposing the instability of categories, queer theory exposes and challenges the dualistic categories embedded in theology - not just of gender and sexuality that is often associated with queer theology, but the dualistic categories of mind/spirit and body, emotion and reason, church and state, sacred and secular, holy and profane, personal and the political, young and old, and many others. These categories are not distinct and discrete, but rather are constituted in and of each other. It is not a matter of either-or, but both-and.

i know this is rather jargon-filled, but as Paul put it so eloquently in Galatians - "There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus." the labels and categories do not matter in the body of Christ.

what does that mean in the living out in community? that is a challenge for us to discover - because we are doing a new thing that God is calling us forward into. there is no model we can look at, but rather dig deep within ourselves. This is what it means to be equal beloved children of God. it doesn't mean we are the same.

do we allow ourselves to be transformed, move beyond our comfort zones to the radically different, uncomfortable, even go to dangerous places Jesus invites us to go when He asked us to follow him? are we able to imagine a different world and bring that world into fruition? are we willing to be open, and listen to each other, and be transformed? can we abandon the labels "conservative", "liberal", "progressive" and be in community with those we do not necessary agree with, and work together to build the Kin-dom of God on earth? dare we dream beyond ourselves, and dare we imagine a different world? being Christian cannot be done alone - it has to be done in community.

miak

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An epiphany for me. I don't feel so lonely as I have been for some time. Well said, Miak. You and I are on the same wavelength. Hopefully and anxiously waiting for others to join in our common adventure of doing a new thing always.
Hooray for Queer theology. It is the liberating theology for all in captivity in different closets beyond sexuality.

Rev Dr Yap Kim Hao

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Hey Miak! As always I'm running off late for one deadline or other. I have to prepare my viva questions on my student's papers in an hour's time, but thought I'd just jot some thoughts in here for a moment.

You speak of the willingness to ...abandon labels and "be in community with those we do not necessary agree with and work together to build the Kin-dom of God on earth". I mourn the split the Anglican Communion, which for longest time was a communion of churches with many differences, but still survived them all, but alas, the thorny issue of homosexuality seem to driving the communion to schism: a simple reflection of the point that while we may wish to abandon labels, so long as others do not, we will not be in communion or in a community with them. People have to choose to be a community.

The challenge of faith we face, lies in challenging the faith. Just as when Christ challenged the faith then prevalent, or when the church in her evolution, challenged the faith then prevailing, the challenge is seen as something that has to be put down. (The early non-Jewish christians became a challenge to the Jewish Christians, and the Jerusalem Council gave a little ground, though in the end, it took the rise of Pauline Christianity to sever the links with the old, freeing us to the new. )

Herein lies the nub of the problem: what exactly are we challenging? Should FCC become a single issue church, focussing her energies on nuturing her LGBT members while standing as a beacon, albeit a beacon of hope to one section of society? Or should FCC be a multi-issue church, spreading her resources among the many barriers to the love of God that exist?

Truth be told, I would hazard a guess (and would be glad to be proven wrong) that many of her members would rather not be part of any challenge, and would rather not be in any battle. Yet, the fact of the matter is, the very existence of FCC is a challenge to the establishment in Singapore. But like the annoying pimple or scar, there is a risk will it will just in the end be a tolerated annoyance to the establishment Or should it aim to disrupt the peace by engaging to transform the establishment? But what are we trying to transform into????

Heady questions. Rev Yap says "The reconciling church is an example with a majority of straights but decided to be gay affirming." It's still in a sense, early days for FCC. But then, I never thought that was possible till I was in the US, and there worshipped at an Episcopal Church where the priest would joke about the choir-master's partner from the pulpit. It was not a breath of fresh air - it was like an overdose of oxygen!!! It can happen. But at what cost? The Episcopal Church as an establishment is only beginning to find out.See More
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The challenge is to be the church concerned with all issues and for all people who are created. Nothing foreign is alien to me. Just as there was the issue of circumcision in the early community of the followers of Jesus, we are challenged ...to take a position on other issues which emerged. It was followed by Paul who moved away from Judaism and "founded" the Christian movement along with the community influenced by Graeco-Roman culture, then the Reformation and the continuing process of re-forming the Christian community relevant to our time and place. The future is open and we are to challenge one another to discover the new thing and develop new loyalties in the evolving situation that we experience in life around us.See More
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Ahh but Rev Yap - therein lies the challenge to each one of us: in being a neighbour to everyone, and in so doing, recognise that I have to love everyone as myself. And so we should strive, and recognise we will fail. But in recognising... we fail, we arise each new day, we do it all again, because god showed us what love is.

Tall order. Logic demands we fight issues, and we husband our resources. To do more requires a fire in our hearts that not many would want. Like the foxes, we want our holes; like the birds we want our nests. And how many can leave the dead to bury the dead?

How many of us would prefer to hide behind the shadow of others and cling onto Paul's idea that some are apostles, some prophets, some are pastors and some teachers - "because it's not me" - hoping that we will just be a contributing member of the church? It's someone else's job to engage in the headline stuff.

You made a choice in nailing your colours to the mast. I made my choice after a period of vocational discernment. Will enough people make the choice to lead the challenge you have pointed out?See More
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You are so right that this is the challenge each one of us faces. This is the human predicament. But is there really an alternative. Just to resign or even to commit suicide. The current "It Gets Better" movement is serendipity. This is a c...reative movement that none of us expect. It is the trajectory that we need to travel. It is always the lonely road and one that is less travelled. But to get better we are compelled to affirm or we stagnate and wither in the dying vine. I remember that some were fishermen and tax collectors but they chose to be apostles. I remember the carpenter who ended up on the Cross.See More
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Thursday, October 28, 2010

Nature and Purpose of FCC

The Nature and Purpose of FCC

We have been considering the role of Free Community Church in the Christian community here in Singapore. LGBT is at the beginning interested to relate Christianity to sexuality leading to the acceptance of homosexuality as a gift from the loving God the Creator of all that exists including all sentient beings irrespective of race and religion. Our Creator is continuously engaged in the evolutionary process of human beings living in co-operation with one another and in harmony with nature to bring about shalom. Religion has to be involved in this transformation process not only in sexuality and human development but also in ecology and mutual existence on planetary earth.

FCC began at the stage when LGBT were secure enough to come together to form SAFEHAVEN as a support group with common concerns and shared leadership. When the larger community outside seem to move in the direction of acceptance of LGBT essentially more for political and economic reasons, the issue of homosexuality surfaced both within faith communities and secular society. SAFEHAVEN was able to mobilize courageous people and evolve to form the Free Community Church.

What is the nature of FCC? Because LGBT was excluded from the majority in society we paraded the principle of inclusion. We proclaim that FCC is the only inclusive church. Our distinctiveness is that we are the only Church that does not exclude and truly welcomes LGBT. Those who come do not feel that they are discriminated upon and excluded. We continue to enable in the interpretation of the BIblical texts to relate faith with sexuality and assert that homosexuality is not a sin. The degree of acceptance even within FCC is correlated with the change of one's theological understanding of the sacred text on the issue of one's sexual orientation. The theological baggage that we carry may even force us to internalize homophobia. But we are gaining ground to move out of regarding homosexuality as a sin or even fallen nature to the stage where we accept that our sexual orientation is a given and a gift from our loving Creator.

When FCC declares that we are an inclusive community it does that mean that mean we are completely free and we include every body and every view including those which differ from one another. We merely tolerate the differences. We isolate ourselves from other people and other perspectives. Inclusivity without interactions and openness to change is intolerable. Inclusivity in itself is heretical. It is not the move to uniformity and the forming of one common view for all. It is the sharing of our views always tentative and seeking common approach to address the problems that we face in our personal lives and in community life. We are on the journey of evolving like all things around us.

Our religious faith must relate to our common life and address all issues and not only on sexual orientation. The changes in our theology must move beyond sexuality but to all of life.

Yes, there is an emerging problem that FCC will deal exclusively with homosexuality issues. The churches outside will continue to be concerned with heterosexual issues with the LGBT members clossetted within. We will continue to live apart from one another.

The authentic Christian Church is be inclusive with regard to gays and straights, male and female & in-between, rich and poor. The change and re-construction of theology must take place to relate to evolve and grow such a community. There are people, gay and straight, who are expecting and waiting for a different theology that permeates all churches including FCC today. As long as we reflect the prevailing theology, whether liberal or conservative, that governs the life our our Christian churches today we will continue to exist where we are, separate and unequal. The reconciling church is an example with a majority of straights but decided to be gay affirming. The kind of theology that they have evolved which leads them to accept LGBT must influence them to relate in a new way to all other areas of life. They too need to transform their theological understanding of what God expects from their commitment to the life and mission of the church in the prevailing pluralistic paradigm. The same can be said of the purpose of the existence of FCC. Let us engage and learn from one another to equip ourselves for such a time like this.

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Rev Dr Yap Kim Hao
10E, Braddell Hill, Apt. #16-17
Singapore 579724
Tel: +65-6250-4561
Email: kimhao.yap@gmail.com

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Saturday, October 23, 2010

It Gets Better

From International Herald Tribune

Campaign Offers Help to Gay Youths
By BRIAN STELTER
Published: October 18, 2010


“Middle school was the worst,” Calvin Stowell says in a YouTube video he uploaded on Oct. 1.



"It Gets Better" Project (youtube.com)



Dan Savage, a syndicated columnist, started the project.

Homophobia was rampant. Bullies were “pretty relentless,” he says, recalling that on his first day there, a girl walked up to him and asked, “Are you a faggot? No offense.” Eventually his parents pulled him out of the school.

Looking directly at the camera, Mr. Stowell, now 22, then says three words that he wants isolated gay, lesbian and transgender teenagers to hear: “It got better.”

Thousands of people like Mr. Stowell have posted personal testimonies to YouTube in an online campaign titled “It Gets Better” that has, in Internet parlance, “gone viral” in the four weeks since it started. The campaign is intended to help gay teenagers who feel isolated and who may be contemplating suicide, and it coincides with a rash of recent news stories about bullying and the suicides of gay teenagers and young adults.

The highly personal videos have caused some teenagers to ask for help. Mr. Stowell now spends hours each day replying to messages from viewers.

“Growing up, I never had someone to confide in,” he said. Now these teenagers do. “I can’t even articulate how much this has ended up meaning to me,” he said.

Mr. Stowell says he has received 23 e-mails from teenagers who said they had felt suicidal. He has referred them to the Trevor Project, a toll-free telephone line and online chat site for gay youths at risk. The YouTube channel for “It Gets Better” is the third largest source of traffic to the Trevor Project, and there has been a “great increase” in calls in the last month, a spokeswoman for the project said.

The videos are “a new way of using the technology at hand to save lives,” said Stephen Sprinkle, a professor at Brite Divinity School in Fort Worth, who posted a video to YouTube about the loneliness he felt before identifying as gay.

Some say the videos also represent an important moment for the gay rights movement. The sharing of coming-out stories has long been a tool of solidarity among gays as “a way to say that we understand each other because we had to come out under fire or because we struggled with it,” Mr. Sprinkle said.

The “It Gets Better” videos are different, he said, because they are both more public and more positive. “We’re able to look back on our stories and say, it really has gotten better,” he said.

Dan Savage, the sex columnist who started the project, concurred, saying in an interview that the videos were “helping gay adults realize that it’s gotten better for us,” but that “for teens, it’s been getting worse out in the boonies, in the exurbs.”

The “It Gets Better” idea came to Mr. Savage, 46, while he was riding the AirTrain shuttle to Kennedy International Airport last month and thinking about Billy Lucas, a 15-year-old from Indiana who committed suicide Sept. 9. The local news media reported that Mr. Lucas was bullied regularly.

Days earlier, Mr. Savage had blogged about the suicide, and a reader had written: “My heart breaks for the pain and torment you went through, Billy Lucas. I wish I could have told you that things get better.”

Mr. Savage said he felt the same way. But how to tell them? He gives talks at colleges regularly, but not at middle schools or high schools. “I would never get permission,” he said, blaming a system of “parents, preachers and teachers” who “believe they can terrorize gay children out of being gay as they grow up.”

His realization was this: “I was waiting for permission that — in the era of YouTube, Twitter, Facebook — I didn’t need anymore.”

Mr. Savage and his husband put the YouTube page online on Sept. 21, and he promoted it in his syndicated column. The column quoted the politician Harvey Milk: “You gotta give ’em hope.”

For Mr. Savage, the responses have been “really overwhelming” — far too many for one person to watch. He is now preparing a permanent home for the videos.

Most are by ordinary people. Some are by celebrities, like Tim Gunn, a mentor on the hit show “Project Runway,” who revealed in his video that he tried to kill himself at 17.

The most popular video features Joel Burns, a Fort Worth city councilman, who read his testimony at a Council meeting. Choking back tears, he recalled being roughed up one day in high school by older children who told him that “I should die and go to hell where I belonged.”

Mr. Burns’s message to gay teenagers was succinct: “The attitudes of society will change. Please live long enough to be here to see it.”